Couples create little people! These little beings remind us of how important we adults are to the family.

Yes they (the little people) have needs. Lots of needs!

But we can often feel as if good tag teaming in the spirit of meeting all the demands of parenting will somehow translate into a close coupleship.

Not the case!

Couples need to care about their relationship while they are managing the grind of parenting.

This does not mean you need to force date nights when the schedule is packed.

But rather, that you look at the schedule and make it a priority to find some intentional time to connect with your partner.

Because kids are not concerned with the adults’ happiness, couples need to create opportunities to feed their marital identity.

Marriage counseling helps couples make your relationship a priority by exploring ways to steal time, connect and stay intimate.

Couples that are able to maintain a playful spirit give their relationship an added dimension.

Because they are not merely focused on meeting the needs of their kids they have time set aside for their desire to keep their relationship lighter and growing.

One of the things couples need to consider is how they can build rituals into their relationship.

Rituals do not have to be time consuming, but they are designed to be consistent and in the spirit of building emotional closeness.

When couples commit to things such as taking walks, having coffee, meditation, playing games, early bedtime, etc., they are better positioned to prevent their relationship from running away from itself.

These activities create a routine that helps couples stay connected in small yet significant ways.

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Bryon Remo, M.Ed., LMFT is an exceptional marriage counselor in West Hartford, CT. His wealth of professional and personal experience has helped him customize his approach to each unique couple with whom he works. He offers a free phone consultation that gives couples an opportunity to ask whatever questions you may have to feel confident you are a good match.