Couples Therapy
About
Couples counseling is an opportunity for individuals to take stock of their relationship and determine a course of action that is active and collaborative. It gives couples a chance to look more deeply at the patterns in their marriage or relationship that are interfering with their closeness.
Many couples simply need a venue that is emotionally safe to share their concerns and ideas that will re-mobilize their closeness. Others need a bit more prodding and creative solutions to help relationships recalibrate. Regardless of where couples are in their relationship, there are always opportnities to improve communication and take action on the aspects of the relationship that is most needed.
Couples in counseling can expect:
empathic non-judgmental listening
relaxed and pleasant environment
useful strategies & interventions to take home
an opportunity to "re-author" their story
to learn how to play tug o' war on the same side of the rope
reprogram default ways of thinking
understand the various systems of which we live and how they impact each other
recognize the difference between what has the potential to change and what must be tolerated
examine whether your values and vision are in alignment with your daily life
encouragement to take risks
learn how to become slow to anger & quick to forgive
avoid 'analysis paralysis' thinking that keeps people stuck
In moving toward an improved relationship, couples need to recognize that their hopefulness hinges upon two key concepts:
a reasonable awareness of how they got to this point in their relationship,
and a willingness to be influenced by their partner and make some change
Marriage counseling
Marriage counseling gives clients a great opportunity to develop their ideal relationship vision not simply a plan to avoid divorce. It is a place that helps clients think not just about being good parents or better communicators, but instead it is an opportunity for couples to imagine and develop the kind of closeness that most couples feel are relegated to Hollywood.
Marriage counseling takes a bit of risk. But mostly it takes willingness. A willingness to step outside your comfort zone and recognize that it truly is not a sign of weakness to seek marriage therapy. But instead it is a testament to how much you love your partner. Read More